I hear alot of couples say, "I'm just not in love anymore". Believe me, I get that, because I felt that before. Or, was it that I was tired of putting so much effort forth, and feeling like I wasn't getting enough back? Or, maybe the love was hiding under a mountain of pain, unforgiveness and disbelief. Sometimes it's hard to find those "in love" moments in our busy lives. It's hard to search for something you don't feel is even there anymore. But, those moments are worth looking for. You see...love isn't a feeling...it's a choice. God loved us, so He chose to give His son to die on the cross. Jesus loved His father and us, so He chose to shed His blood on the cross for our sins. Love is a choice. When we choose to love, beyond all that we feel or don't feel...love grows into something that we might not expect. Something wonderful. Something pure. Something worth fighting for.
We went away for the weekend a couple of weeks ago. We didn't do a whole lot. There were moments that we just sat together...in the quiet. No words were needed, no deep conversation on either of our parts...just quiet. Just listening to the soft sounds of one another breathing. That's romance. Romance isn't always found in the big things. The flowers, the candy, the candelit dinners at the most expensive restaurants, the jewelry, and the Valentine's Day cards, are nice..but, that's not where it's at all the time. ( Alot of my women friends are screeching in horror right about now.) It's found in the small everyday moments. It's in the kiss he gives me each time he leaves to go to work. It's in the phone calls in the middle of the day. It's in the cup of coffee he fixes me in the early morning hours. It's in the sitting together watching the Disney channel with our kids. It's in the talking about our work day with one another. It's in getting home, to find out he has already started cooking supper so I don't have to. It's in the picking up our daughter from a late movie, because he doesn't want me out late by myself. It's in showing appreciation and saying "thank you". It's in laughing together. It's in watching him hug on our kids. It's in him bringing me a frappacino, from the store, on his way home. It's in being the first to say, "I'm sorry" after an argument. It's in our childrens eyes, they are the product of our love. It's in the way he holds me as we sleep. It's in him holding my hand as we walk into church. It's in standing next to him as we worship in church. It's in all things...if you just look for it.I'm in love with my husband. Our lives are filled with God's romance. No matter where you are in your marriage or love relationship today...find a new place to be...a better place. You can't find your full potential in a relationship without God being first. Put God first in your love for your mate. He will guide you to the romance of a lifetime. Thank you God for restoring a love that I thought was lost. Thank you for inspiring me to be a better wife and friend to my husband. You are the author of Love. Frankie...thank you for loving me. Song of Solomon 1:2, "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth, for thy love is better than wine. "
Song of Solomon 3:4, "It was but a little that I passed from them, but I found him whom my soul loveth, I held him and would not let go,"I Corinthians 13:4-13 "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
**Here are some resources:
Song of Solomon (Holy Bible)
Fireproof the movie and The Love Dare book
The Five Love Languages written by Gary Chapman
Power of a Praying Wife or Husband written by Stormie Omartian